You know you need to lose weight when, ...

[Bruce Griffis]

I haven't worn my wedding ring in a while. When I got engaged, I was a 129 pound young man, who "beefed up" to 138 pound for the first few years of marriage. Well, add 25 years on to that - and I think I ate my old self! Well, half my old self, anyway.

Anyway, I put my ring back on again - and something should have told me that was a bad idea. I had to get the thing cut off this morning!

I'm not going to see 138 again any time soon - but decided to start losing again. Wish me luck! I'm getting the ring repaired and resized, and luckily the inscription didn't get cut.

Any of you guys had a few too many pizzas or cheeseburgers or Pistachio ice creams since marriage - you can get your wedding band resized. Do it before your doc has to take the ring cutter out!

[Gina Stevenson]

Question re the highlighted portion below: 'Wondering why it was off in the first place, that you had that much time to change before putting it back on? Keep 'em on, men! Gals don't know any better than to think you're single if you don't wear your ring. So, you might expect some of them to act l ike that, rather than wonder why.

Sadly, there are some who wouldn't care one way or the other, but there are those who are kosher enough to respect any ring they see.

I haven't worn my wedding ring in a while. When I got engaged, I was a 129 pound young man, who "beefed up" to 138 pound for the first few years of marriage. Well, add 25 years on to that - and I think I ate my old self! Well, half my old self, anyway.

[U] Anyway, I put my ring back on again - and something should have told me that was a bad idea. I had to get the thing cut off this morning!

I'm not going to see 138 again any time soon - but decided to start losing again. Wish me luck! I'm getting the ring repaired and resized, and luckily the inscription didn't get cut.

Any of you guys had a few too many pizzas or cheeseburgers or Pistachio ice creams since marriage - you can get your wedding band resized. Do it before your doc has to take the ring cutter out!

[Jim Franklin]

Gina, what is suspected if a married woman does not wear her wedding ring?

[Gina Stevenson]

Any of several things, Jim. If that's what's occurred at your house, I'm sorry. :(

Gina, what is suspected if a married woman does not wear her wedding ring?

[Terri Knoll]

too funny, that has actually happened to me, but it was my class ring cut off my pinkie :eek:

[Bruce Griffis]

Yaknow - neither my wife nor I wear our rings. Our friends know we are married. The people I work with know I am married (but since I telecommute - work from home - it doesn't matter), the people at my old church know we're married. The folks where I shop know we're married, and the folks at Scouts know we're married. Along the same lines - the same holds true for my wife and her friends.

The main reason I put it back on is I decided to go someplace new.

A ring is an outward symbol of an inner commitment. If both partners in a marriage know that commitment, and if the people you interact with know it as well - then the outward symbol is not important.

Besides, we all know married people that wear their rings but have no commitment to each other.

[Gina Stevenson]

............... The main reason I put it back on is I decided to go someplace new.

A ring is an outward symbol of an inner commitment. If both partners in a marriage know that commitment, and if the people you interact with know it as well - then the outward symbol is not important.

Besides, we all know married people that wear their rings but have no commitment to each other.


Right you are there [re the last statement]. 'Guess I was thinking how many people are constantly running into --- via work, shopping, etc --- people who do not know ... are not aware of ... another's marital status. 'Sounds as if everyone ... everyone ... with whom the two of you come into contact know you belong to each other that your "circulation" in the world's society is a mite less than some folks. Welcome to NN, BTW. ;)

[Marsha Lynn]

Yaknow - neither my wife nor I wear our rings.

Same here. Neither of us has worn a ring for years for reasons that have nothing to do with our commitment to our marriage. I do meet new people often but it's out in the ordinary workaday world and no one shows much interest in my marital status.

[Gina Stevenson]

Same here. Neither of us has worn a ring for years for reasons that have nothing to do with our commitment to our marriage. I do meet new people often but it's out in the ordinary workaday world and no one shows much interest in my marital status.

Maybe I've seen a bit too much (beginning way back when at "home") that's made me feel "there oughta be a law" re rings ... re announcing to the world one's marital status ... so those single don't have a chance to be embarrassed ... or look like something they're not, because .........

Well, it might also be related to having been single more of my life than married [married late] and, being morally upright, I'd not want to take any so-called "2nd look" at someone with a ring/spouse. There are enough folks out there trying to look unmarried who are not, that it just seems safer for all concerned. Those who married at 20 or so, or before, having been basically "married all their lives" may not have any idea what it is like for those who are unmarried later in life [30's+], who might like to "take a look around" (tho' never agressively, I'd hasten to add), but also want to be careful where they look ... who they talk to ... etc. :cool: Yes, there are some out there who, rather than just not thinking to wear their ring for whatever reason, like to leave it off for less-than-honorable purposes.

[Barbara Moulton]

Yaknow - neither my wife nor I wear our rings. Our friends know we are married. The people I work with know I am married (but since I telecommute - work from home - it doesn't matter), the people at my old church know we're married. The folks where I shop know we're married, and the folks at Scouts know we're married. Along the same lines - the same holds true for my wife and her friends.

The main reason I put it back on is I decided to go someplace new.

A ring is an outward symbol of an inner commitment. If both partners in a marriage know that commitment, and if the people you interact with know it as well - then the outward symbol is not important.

Besides, we all know married people that wear their rings but have no commitment to each other.

I can still wear my ring but Carl was 123 pounds when he got married (and he isn't now) so his ring doesn't fit anymore. We keep talking about getting it resized. We really should sometime I guess.

[Vivian Cornwell]

I still wear my rings but I can't get them off. I have gained a little weight in 43 years but they aren't too small where the ring sit on my finger. I can't get them off my finger because of arthritis in the finger joint. I will probably have to have them cut off some day---maybe by the funeral director???

It really wouldn't do me any good to get them re-sized because if they were sized large enough to go over the finger joint they would be too large for the area where the rings rest and would constantly slide around.

[Marsha Lynn]

Gina,

I appreciate you sharing your point of view. It gives me food for thought. I guess I just have a knack for looking either unavailable or unattractive because I truly can't think of a single instance in all the years I've been "ringless" that an "on the market" man has given me a first look, let alone a second. There have been a few instances when men in the library have made those of us working there uncomfortable with their "friendliness" but marital status was obviously not a factor in those cases since the men themselves were married and their wives also frequented the library. I think they just didn't know how to relate to women as intelligent human beings deserving their respect.

I suppose I ought to get my rings fixed up so I can wear them or get a simple gold band. Doing so just never makes it to the top of my to-do list. I seldom wear any jewelry other than an inexpensive watch, which earns its place on my wrist by keeping track of the time for me.

Marsha

Maybe I've seen a bit too much (beginning way back when at "home") that's made me feel "there oughta be a law" re rings ... re announcing to the world one's marital status ... so those single don't have a chance to be embarrassed ... or look like something they're not, because .........

Well, it might also be related to having been single more of my life than married [married late] and, being morally upright, I'd not want to take any so-called "2nd look" at someone with a ring/spouse. There are enough folks out there trying to look unmarried who are not, that it just seems safer for all concerned. Those who married at 20 or so, or before, having been basically "married all their lives" may not have any idea what it is like for those who are unmarried later in life [30's+], who might like to "take a look around" (tho' never agressively, I'd hasten to add), but also want to be careful where they look ... who they talk to ... etc. :cool: Yes, there are some out there who, rather than just not thinking to wear their ring for whatever reason, like to leave it off for less-than-honorable purposes.

[Mike Wooldridge]

Back to topic, you need to lose weight when at Christmas time a child sees you and says, "There's Santa Claus!" :eek: :cs01

[Charlene Clevenger]

Neither my husband or I have ever taken our rings off. I'm sure we couldn't if we tried now. :) When I had surgery 2 years ago they put tape over my ring, since they couldn't remove it. There have been no problems with blood circulation or anything like that. The only reason I could see to remove my ring is if the diamond fell out. It's been there 27 years, and so far so good. :)

[Bruce Griffis]

Ring is back from the jeweler. The inscription is fine, didn't suffer when the ring was cut off. The jeweler resized it, added some gold to it. You can't tell it's bigger than it was.

So - if it's tight, resize it! It was quick, inexpensive - and it came back polished, with all scratches buffed out.

I originally took it off in hot, Georgia summer weather. Left it off with the intention of getting skinny again. That didn't happen, lol. And my son and I are missing our Wednesday noon-time hike. Rats.

Gina, I never thought about it from your point of view - but I didn't notice any sharks cruising about. I must be too short, bald, round, other-side-of-middle-aged and toothless. My wife doesn't have to worry about anyone fishing in her pond, lol. Um, did anyone say anything? My hearing appears to be going as well! Luckily I'm short-sighted enough to not notice any reactions.

[Roy Richardson]

you volunteer for a drug research study, and your doctor calls you after he gets your physical results from the study center. It seems that most of my health issues are genetic, but weight control can mitigate much of the damage.

Never a good sign when your doctor calls you.

[Rance Gould]

Ring is back from the jeweler. The inscription is fine, didn't suffer when the ring was cut off. The jeweler resized it, added some gold to it. You can't tell it's bigger than it was.

So - if it's tight, resize it! It was quick, inexpensive - and it came back polished, with all scratches buffed out.

I originally took it off in hot, Georgia summer weather. Left it off with the intention of getting skinny again. That didn't happen, lol. And my son and I are missing our Wednesday noon-time hike. Rats.

Gina, I never thought about it from your point of view - but I didn't notice any sharks cruising about. I must be too short, bald, round, other-side-of-middle-aged and toothless. My wife doesn't have to worry about anyone fishing in her pond, lol. Um, did anyone say anything? My hearing appears to be going as well! Luckily I'm short-sighted enough to not notice any reactions.


I'm old, fat and ugly too Bruce, plus walk with a limp with two canes. By the way, welcome to NazNet. :basic05

[Chris Hole]

Okay, this is a true story, and one that I don't tell very often. Here goes.

About 9 years ago, I was coordinating an international meeting for work. There were representatives from our facilities in Japan, Taiwan, Kuala Lumpur, Italy and Germany. It was my job to arrange flights, hotels, transportation, meals, evening entertainment, snacks for the meeting, etc. Basic hospitality stuff for about 25 people.

I noticed on the 2nd day of the conference that the 4 guys from Kuala Lumpur kept staring at me. When I would look at them, they would smile and look away. They seemed pretty shy. When I asked them if they needed any help, if there was anything I could do for them, they just shook their heads. But they kept staring.

On day 3, towards the end of the day, they approached en masse. One of them pointed at my hand (my ring) and asked in broken English if I was married. I believe he actually asked if I had a man (and I assumed he meant was I married). I told him yes. They conferred for a moment.

Then -- and this is where this story ties into the thread -- he turned back with a smile and said, "You husband must be very proud man." I smiled and thanked him.

He continued, "You have very large butt." He was holding out his hands like he was describing a good catch, and the others all smiled and nodded approvingly. Not knowing what else to do, I thanked him again.

I thought my boss was going to fall on the floor laughing.

I don't know much about Kuala Lumpur, but I think I'll have to visit some day. I'll have to make sure everyone can see my wedding ring though, because somehow I think I'm still a good catch.

[Mike Wooldridge]

I don't know much about Kuala Lumpur, but I think I'll have to visit some day. I'll have to make sure everyone can see my wedding ring though, because somehow I think I'm still a good catch.
Be sure you remind hubby sometimes, too. :q)