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Desiree Allen-Baker
2nd January 2008, 03:03 PM (15:03)
I realized I haven't properly introduced myself... so here I am. Better late than never. :p

My name is Desiree, and I am a single mother of two children, Ethan (who is 6) and Mary (who is 4); I have been attending services at Westminster Church of the Nazarene for the past several months. I have to tell you I'm so glad that I was open to receiving the nuggets of knowledge pastors have given me while I have been coming to WCON.

My religious background is Roman Catholic. I was baptized and received Communion in the Church and, while my parents weren't the kind of people who attended Church regularly, we were raised to believe what we were taught in religious classes. While the fellowship was nice when I was there, I didn't feel connected all the time. :) When I was a teenager, I attended a youth group at a different religious church with my very good friend Joy, and was "hooked" - I never had so much fun learning about God!! Unfortunately for me, I didn't think I could keep going - after all, I was Catholic!! (Even though I never really attended Mass, I still felt guilty thinking about breaking from tradition!!)

Then, when I was preparing to become a married woman, I decided to take the RCIA classes (adult ed) so I could be fully in sync with what God wanted for my life. I still had many questions about the religion, but thought this was what was right. I can't say I was completely ready for the change as I was living with my boyfriend/fiance and became pregnant while I was attending classes... but I was feeling lost and was desperate for some sort of guidance!! Because I became so sick while I was in my first trimester of pregnancy, I didn't continue my classes and we ended up getting married by a Justice of the Peace. Afterwards, my son was baptized in the Catholic Church when he was six weeks old "because that is what we have always done"! I am now seperated from my husband - we have been for the past two years - and divorce is the choice we have made as soon as we can afford to file.

My children live with me full time, and they see their dad maybe 6-8 hours a week, usually only on Saturdays. I am the only parent who attends parent/teacher conferences, I was the only parent who would take Ethan to baseball practice this past summer - I'm the parent who does the most for my kids, which can be so overwhelming at times!!

One day while I was on my way to work (feeling particularly tired) and was driving down 104th Avenue (the main street where the church is located), a sign I had seen a million times before finally caught my eye. It was an electronic sign that invited the community to attend an event at WCON, and listed the web address. When I arrived at work, one of the first things I did was to check out the website. Wow!! I was so impressed with the information on the site, and toodled around for a while, looking at every little bit that I could get to. When I came upon the staff pages, I was surprised to see my very good friend Joy as the Director of the Sunday School!! It was during that moment that I emailed Joy and asked her when I could come to "her" church. She was elated, of course, and told me about the service times, and the best time for my kids to come to Sunday School. I knew that Joy and her family were (are!) good people, and if Joy was able to speak so highly of WCON, I had to check it out. Also, some friends of my family, the Guildner family, attend WCON... so it was definitely decided.

After attending the church and learning more about the denomination, I have now officially "converted" to Nazarene.

Anne and Dwayne Hood
5th January 2008, 12:07 AM (00:07)
Wonderful, Desiree! I am so glad that you have found a church, that you love, and where your children will be able to learn about Jesus and His love for us.
Did it upset your family, for you to leave the Catholic Church?

It would be wonderful, if you and your children's father could work things out, and they could be raised with two Christian parents. But, these things happen.

I was 15 when my dad left. It was not with another woman. My brother said that he got his finances messed up. He moved to Virginia, and gradually sent money back to straighten things out. I had a precious dad.

Just keep your eyes on Christ, and trust Him to make a way for you to be able to raise your children, and have your needs met. He is able!

Desiree Allen-Baker
5th January 2008, 12:37 AM (00:37)
Did it upset your family, for you to leave the Catholic Church?

I haven't shared my conversion yet. My parents know I have been attending WCON, but they don't know I'm a member. I don't think they'd be upset as much as my grandmother would be... :eek:

Just keep your eyes on Christ, and trust Him to make a way for you to be able to raise your children, and have your needs met. He is able!

As always, you know all the right things to say. Thank you, Anne. :q)

Katy Bean
5th January 2008, 12:43 AM (00:43)
Desiree from another new one on the board. WELCOME =) you have a wonderful and powerful testimony. My mom came from a mormon family and was disowned for years, but there came a point where my grandma finally accepted that my mom was a Nazarene pastors wife and a born again christian not mormon. I will begin praying for open hearts and minds when you have that right time to let them know. HUGS.

Sheya Stephens
5th January 2008, 02:58 AM (02:58)
Desiree-

I was born and raised in Denver. I moved to Idaho 10 years ago. My sisters live in Arvada and my mom lives up north in Erie.

I will pray for this time of transition for you and your children. My husband was raised Catholic and there was a lot of awkward situations and still some pop up. Be strong and rely on the Lord for patience, and courage.

Sheya

Desiree Allen-Baker
5th January 2008, 03:07 AM (03:07)
Desiree-

I was born and raised in Denver. I moved to Idaho 10 years ago. My sisters live in Arvada and my mom lives up north in Erie.

I will pray for this time of transition for you and your children. My husband was raised Catholic and there was a lot of awkward situations and still some pop up. Be strong and rely on the Lord for patience, and courage.

Sheya

Do you "get back to town" often? Thanks for your words of encouragement. ;)

Sheya Stephens
5th January 2008, 06:12 PM (18:12)
We used to go back a couple time a year. I don't have a realtionship with my side of the family, and since my father in law passed away, we then moved my mother in law and brother in law out here to Boise. They live less than a mile away. So.... I don't have a need to go back to Denver much these days. But I miss the snow...

Desiree Allen-Baker
5th January 2008, 07:22 PM (19:22)
We're seeing grass again here in Westminster... albeit yellow. :laughing Soon we'll have snow again... and when we do, I'll be sure to send it your way. :)

Alisa Stoll
6th January 2008, 10:08 PM (22:08)
I started attending a Nazarene church when I was ten - at that time I observed a number of former catholics and they make wonderful nazarenes. Welcome. My youngest brother's best friend attended our church so she could quiz (as well as going to mass) and then went to MVNU and is now a missionary. She has uncles who are priests and her family still accepts her. Ultimately I really truly don't think God cares what denomination you belong to as long as you are growing in your relationship with Him.

Alisa