Pastor's Kids - Let me clarify...Please...

[Mark Doble]

In no way am I talking about my own Pastor's kids.

However, they have been on my heart lately for prayer. What ever... I have been pondering the life of a PK. Just wondering what different ones go through so I am more in ept to help our own... I think of what Billy Graham's son went through just to prove a point.!

Our Pastor's 3 girls are the most perfect on the earth!

[Alisa Stoll]

Our Pastors' kids are human - no more perfect or less perfect than other kids their age. They are all great kids/young adults. Part of the key is not expecting more or less from them simple because they are PKs

Alisa

[Belinda Y. Edwards]

YEAHHHHH !

i could just huggle and kiss you for posting this. *Grins* Well, your pastoral family has sure gotten a few prayers from across the border this week.

[Brad Mercer]

I was the perfect little PK and my brother was the defiant, rebellious black sheep PK. It's not ultimately much fun, either way.

A preacher's kid in my experience could merit disapproval and scorn, but could never, no matter what, merit approval and praise. No matter how perfectly, even sacrificially, I behaved, I could never get more than just: "Of course you'd do or say that; you're a preacher's kid."

If you want to do something good for your pastor's kid, watch for them to do something morally admirable and praise them with absolutely no reference to who their parents are. Don't give the church or their parents credit for that kid's heart and good choices; give that kid the credit. Value them for who they are, innately, without reference to their parents. You make a habit of that and they will love you. They will remember you when they've forgotten everything else in that church. And when they think back in later life about why they're still a Christian and still in the church, in spite of all the garbage they saw in the church growing up in a parsonage, they'll think of you as one of the great saints who proved by your life everything their mother or father preached about the transforming power of God's grace on Sunday morning.

Brad

[Ann Smith]

I was a good girl. Never gave my parents any problems, but my brother did. Since Daddy mostly pastored home mission churches we didn't get a lot of the flack kids do in established churches. However, the church Daddy pastored my sophmore and junior year was not a home mission church and one person in the church was frequently on my case. I was so sensitive that it hurt. Fortunately, it didn't warp me. However, as I became an adult I discovered that I often felt unwanted at activities and thought I was only invited because of the fact that I was the preacher's kid. I am not one to mix much in social occasions unless I am very comfortable with the people. I want to be accepted for my self, not the position I hold.
Ann