I recall reading somewhere that in
1 Cor 3:16, the you that is there (you are the temple) is more like a "you all, together are the temple". This seems to dovetail in with your thoughts Cynthia -- it is not a singular but a collective (or communal sense). This has a ring of Wesley's "social holiness" in it as well. I don't recall where I read the part about the
1 Cor 3:16 -- perhaps Oord/Lodahl's "Relational Holiness" or something from CLT. Also brings in the "where two or more or gathered" in another sense. Interesting thoughts.