
Originally Posted by
Dave McClung
Belinda, welcome back. We have missed you on Naznet.
Thank you sincerely and kindly.
Confidentiality only answers part of your question. The truth is that clergy have been slow to report wrongdoing by other clergy even when their knowledge came from sources that were not confidential. The reasons are complex.
Thank you for these statements of acknowledgement. Yes, I agree that the reasons are complexed. So complexed that the families themselves spin within the culture of expected protection: as an individual within the Church apart from the union of the pastorate; their own theological war of belief for answered prayers; forgiveness; restoration; reconciliation that would result in safety emotionally, physically and most of all spiritually. Isolation and judgement, rather than accountability that could result in healing, seem to be companions for the ones that may mention a wrong doing.
I would also say that the problem isn't limited to clergy. It happens in all kinds of organizations.
Again, thank you - sincerely - for acknowledging this element within our culture. It is many organizations. I do agree.
Probably the most difficult issue is theological. Our bleif in "conversion" often causes us to overlook past misconduct. If a person appears to "repent", we tend to believe that misconduct is a thing of the past.
Again, I agree with your thought that perhaps the most difficult issue is theology. I think that you have mentioned one aspect of our theology that hinders the acknowledgement that wrong has occurred. I think there are several reasons beneath the theology unbrella. Another could be that pastors often have the gift of persuasion. They know how to present their case and cause ones to buy it. Each time they are in the pulpit, their style of delivery will either draw the crowd to them or repulse the crowd. If the speaker, pastor, has a crowd that is in awe of him - then, he could convince the crowd for any motive that would be needed. I think another issue is that we, as a nation, hunger to be able to trust our leaders. We want to trust our doctors; it frustrates us when we learn we can't. We want to trust our lawyers; it frustrates us when we can't. We want to trust our pastors - because we desparately need to trust the God they reflect and represent. If we can't trust our pastors - who can we trust???? The foundational stones that hold the character and morals of who we are as people before God - command us to trust our pastors and follow our leader. We can't build the church as we are tearing it down.
In my life, I have seen a number of people who have repented and become new creatures. Their conduct after conversion has been radically different from before. I have also seem a lot of people who claimed to repent who quickly returned to their past forms of misconduct. Still, as a Christian, I tend to give people a second chance. In retrospect, I have sometimes given people another chance when I had many reasons not to.
I believe in forgiveness. I believe in second chances. I don't want to ever get to the point in my life where these two concepts aren't important elements of my interactions to those around me; within and without the church culture. I believe that one shouldn't have to have a reason to give a second chance - other than the fact that God Himself gave *me* a second chance when He died on Calvary and with that I will give others the same mercy and grace. However, there are some wrong doings that (in my opinion) render not just repentance but should also have accountability and the reconciliation process embedded within the restoration process. One can forgive someone a thousand times but that doesn't wash the person clean of motives that caused the deed in the first place. Our forgiveness does not one thing for the person who did the wrong. It does a whole lot for US but not for them. For some reason, it seems that we have thought that if we forgive someone that we are cleansing them. That person is solely responsible for how they respond to the process of righting the wrong.
One proverb that has meant a lot to me is the Indian one about the snake. If you step on the snake one time - snake fault. You step on the snake second time - Indian fault.
One may not be able to prevent the first wrong doing, but if protective safe guards aren't put in place the wrong will happen a second time. For example: the child wants to go into the street. If the parent just calls to the child or even ignores the child - the child will go in to the street. If traffic isn't around, it is no big deal. (or is it?)