Self-Interest

[Ryan Plott]

I think I'm posting this in the correct theology forum, but if not ya'll just let me know.

What do you all think of self-interest? Is it inherently bad/inherently evil/neutral? Is it a problem for Christians, something we need to accept as part of ourselves, or a necessary evil?

The reason I ask is because in my own ministry plans, I'll be quickly moving from brainstorming to the action phase and this question is one that I've been working through and need to have an answer for. I've been thinking on it for awhile and I'd appreciate hearing some other perspectives.

If the question is unclear I'll try to clarify. I will be a bit slow in the replies though, just a heads up.

[Andy Mistak]

"Self-interest" is kind of a loaded term, and a bit of a buzz word in conservative/libertarian political circles, so I (for one) would feel better giving my opinion if you'd give us your definition.

[Ryan Plott]

"Self-interest" is kind of a loaded term, and a bit of a buzz word in conservative/libertarian political circles,

Ah, forgot about that. My bad. Not interested in a political debate.

so I (for one) would feel better giving my opinion if you'd give us your definition.

Okay. How about, "a focus on the needs of ones self".

[Andy Mistak]

Okay. How about, "a focus on the needs of ones self".

I think as long as we're sure that we're talking about "needs" and not "wants" that it's absolutely vital. If we don't care for ourselves, we don't have anything in the tank when we're called on to help others. My stress does no good for the people that depend on me, and it certainly does me no good.

[Ryan Plott]

I think as long as we're sure that we're talking about "needs" and not "wants" that it's absolutely vital. If we don't care for ourselves, we don't have anything in the tank when we're called on to help others. My stress does no good for the people that depend on me, and it certainly does me no good.

Maybe self-care would be a better term than self-interest. Or maybe both. I'm concerned with both the mindset and the actions. I do agree that we need to take care of ourselves, but at least the way I see the golden rule, the way we understand how to love others is by the way we love ourselves and take care of ourselves. Some people take it to extremes, you could have extreme narcissism on the one hand or extreme people pleasing and codependency on the other. I'm looking for striking the balance.

Just curious, what would be some things you would define as wants?

Edited to add: I'm just interested because I've read on Naznet you're an member of the L'Arche community. I have some friends who are in similar situations and residences. I don't know if you know of JPUSA(Jesus People USA) or not but I have some friends in that commune in Chicago. Conversations with them about needs are generally pretty interesting.

[Andy Mistak]

Maybe self-care would be a better term than self-interest. Or maybe both. I'm concerned with both the mindset and the actions. I do agree that we need to take care of ourselves, but at least the way I see the golden rule, the way we understand how to love others is by the way we love ourselves and take care of ourselves. Some people take it to extremes, you could have extreme narcissism on the one hand or extreme people pleasing and codependency on the other. I'm looking for striking the balance.

Just curious, what would be some things you would define as wants?

Edited to add: I'm just interested because I've read on Naznet you're an member of the L'Arche community. I have some friends who are in similar situations and residences. I don't know if you know of JPUSA(Jesus People USA) or not but I have some friends in that commune in Chicago. Conversations with them about needs are generally pretty interesting.

That's a tough one. As it relates to L'Arche vs JPUSA, the way we live day-to-day is very different. I get free room and board, paid vacation, benefits, and an hourly wage. Some L'Arche communities pay their assistants a stipend and expect them to work much more than 40 hours a week. JPUSA, as I understand it, is a lot more spartan lifestyle than you'd likely experience in any L'Arche community (at least in Europe or North America).

When I think of needs and self-care, I don't go immediately to material things at all. For me, the main need that I need met is about free time. As a live-in assistant, it's very easy to feel responsible for what's happening in my house whether or not I'm on my scheduled "work time". I need to discipline myself to engage in recreation in my off hours, whether that's going to a movie, going to see some live music, or taking a few days off to visit friends in Chicago. When you're in a "helping" or "ministry" position, burnout comes easily, and it stops your effectiveness in it's tracks. It's a big help to be part of a community, because when I start to get a little burnt, someone else will notice, and encourage me to do what I need to get back to 100%.

[Todd Erickson]

If we're truly supposed to be self-sacrificial in our living, and we're supposed to love others as we love ourselves, shouldn't we demand, in love, that everybody sacrifice anything that they actually like or enjoy?

How can anybody pursue things that they like or enjoy and truly say that they are being self-sacrificing?

[Steven Burton]

I think I'm posting this in the correct theology forum, but if not ya'll just let me know.

What do you all think of self-interest? Is it inherently bad/inherently evil/neutral? Is it a problem for Christians, something we need to accept as part of ourselves, or a necessary evil?

The reason I ask is because in my own ministry plans, I'll be quickly moving from brainstorming to the action phase and this question is one that I've been working through and need to have an answer for. I've been thinking on it for awhile and I'd appreciate hearing some other perspectives.

If the question is unclear I'll try to clarify. I will be a bit slow in the replies though, just a heads up.

I think a time of prayer would be good before you go rushing into it. For me if I am passionate about something I look it over a couple of times and make sure I am not going to do this just for myself but that it can be used to glorify God. I see to many people and I am guilty of it too. That sit there and wait for God to tell them to do something when they seem to have a passion for something already that could be used for God.

[Ryan Plott]

I think a time of prayer would be good before you go rushing into it. For me if I am passionate about something I look it over a couple of times and make sure I am not going to do this just for myself but that it can be used to glorify God. I see to many people and I am guilty of it too. That sit there and wait for God to tell them to do something when they seem to have a passion for something already that could be used for God.

Thanks for the advice. This whole thing for me has been a result of 2 1/2 years of brainstorming about how to integrate church and social work/business. It's while I've been in Indy that the network has begun to come together to try make some ideas reality. One of my professors at Olivet is providing guidance to me also. I'm trying to surround myself with people smarter than me, it's not that hard. :-P

And then of course, I'm garnering the wisdom of Naznet.

[Steven Martinez]

I think it is important to remember that the Greatest commandment is to Love God... and to love your neighbor as yourself. Pastors and others in the ministry have literally killed themselves by neglecting their own needs and many more have destroyed his/her families by not taking care of the needs of the family. The CoTN is quite clear in the Manual that a minister should take care of his/her families and his/her own well being as part of answering the call of God to serve. Part of the pastor's responsibilities is to meet with the board every year and make a written proposal that includes the direction of the ministry as well as the felt needs of the church and pastor.
Pastors need sabbaticals. Pastors need time to share and care with his/her family. Pastors need to be able to support his/her family financially. The Church should work to meet these needs just as much as the pastor/minister needs to work with the church on providing for their needs. If you do not love yourself to make sure you are being cared for than how much can you provide care for your neighbor?

[Ryan Scott]

I think self-interest is a necessary part of human identity. People are designed to be selfish. However, I also believe people are designed to only satisfy that self-interest by giving it up - that is we can only be satisfied by being self-sacrificing, which can only be done through the grace of God and the work of the Holy Spirit.

[Billy Cox]

I think self-interest is a necessary part of human identity. People are designed to be selfish. However, I also believe people are designed to only satisfy that self-interest by giving it up - that is we can only be satisfied by being self-sacrificing, which can only be done through the grace of God and the work of the Holy Spirit.

This isn't what I expected you to say. But aside from that, what do you think about the idea that holiness is the transformation of our self interest to conform to God's interest - so a holy person can pursue either self interest or God's interest because they are one and the same?

[Ryan Plott]

This isn't what I expected you to say. But aside from that, what do you think about the idea that holiness is the transformation of our self interest to conform to God's interest - so a holy person can pursue either self interest or God's interest because they are one and the same?

I'm not Ryan, but I don't know if a holy person would ever claim that their interests and God's interests are one and the same. It seems to me that if a person was going to get that close to God, they'd begin to realize how big/wonderful/magnificent/awesome God truly is. Going from there to saying, "God's interests and mine are the same" seems to be a big leap.

[Paul DeBaufer]

I'm not Ryan, but I don't know if a holy person would ever claim that their interests and God's interests are one and the same. It seems to me that if a person was going to get that close to God, they'd begin to realize how big/wonderful/magnificent/awesome God truly is. Going from there to saying, "God's interests and mine are the same" seems to be a big leap.

Maybe for the holy person there is a hope and desire that her interests and God's are the same, but also the realization and confession that this is rarely the case but that every so often there is a true alignment?

[Ryan Plott]

Maybe for the holy person there is a hope and desire that her interests and God's are the same, but also the realization and confession that this is rarely the case but that every so often there is a true alignment?

Yes, I think that would be the case for her in love made perfect. I don't know if I would want to make an alignment claim in anything besides love, and even then it's a very profound statement to say that she would love the world in the same way God loves the world. I think it'd be easier for someone else to see that in her than for her to see it in herself.

[Billy Cox]

I'm not Ryan, but I don't know if a holy person would ever claim that their interests and God's interests are one and the same. It seems to me that if a person was going to get that close to God, they'd begin to realize how big/wonderful/magnificent/awesome God truly is. Going from there to saying, "God's interests and mine are the same" seems to be a big leap.

Ah, but that's not what I'm describing at all. I'm talking about personal piety, not playing the 'God card' to squash dissent and whip the flock into compliance.

What I'm talking about is not 'claims' but is an ethic informed by an intimate relationship, not behavioral codes and mandates.

[Ryan Plott]

Ah, but that's not what I'm describing at all. I'm talking about personal piety, not playing the 'God card' to squash dissent and whip the flock into compliance.

What I'm talking about is not 'claims' but is an ethic informed by an intimate relationship, not behavioral codes and mandates.

Yes, I think I understood you correctly, which hopefully my second sentence suggests. If my post was unclear I'll take responsibility for that, sorry.

[Billy Cox]

Yes, I think I understood you correctly, which hopefully my second sentence suggests. If my post was unclear I'll take responsibility for that, sorry.

No problem. I think it is religion's domain to take personal piety, systematize it, mass-replicate it, and then shackle people to it. I just wanted to make sure that I wasn't giving approval to the spiritual slave trade.

[Hans Deventer]

Self interest goes deep. And not all is bad. I find that in serving my wife, for instance, I get more in return! So where does self interest jump in? It often isn't so neatly distinguishable.

[Mike Schutz]

I think I see self-interest as being similar to pride - and use C.S. Lewis' analogy of the architect who takes pride in the beautiful building she has just built to the glory of God, but also takes pride in the beautiful building down the street designed and built by others also to the glory of God.

The denial of self-interest is a helpful and admirable trait when we take it on for ourselves, under the guidance of the Spirit (and within moderation, as suggested by others above), but can be a terrible hammer when used to force upon others. For example, folks who believe they can have every comfort in life, but want their pastor to deny self and family and live sacrificially.

[Ryan Plott]

Thanks for the responses everybody, a lot of helpful thoughts that have echoed some of my own.

[Thomas Oord]

Hank,

My own view is that love involves promoting overall well-being, otherwise known as the common good or interest of the whole. Given that you are one part of the whole, it makes sense that you will act at least sometimes with the primary goal of helping yourself. This may coincide with helping others near you. Sometimes, of course, love demands we sacrifice our own relative good for the relative good of others. But if God cares about all creation and we ought to care about what God cares about, we ought to care for ourselves.

Tom

[Roland Hearn]

It was the words of AM Hills, that I have quoted before, that started me on a lifelong journey. He said the most selfish thing we can do is surrender to the love of God - or something like that. From that point my understanding of "self" shifted. Into that construct came the issues of worth and self worth and then the alignment of love and worth. Ultimately I hope to do a PHD thesis somewhere around this very issue. I think it is our misunderstand of "self" versus dysfunctional selfishness and how we address that struggle that has made us ineffective in communicating grace and holiness in the 21st century, and the 20th for that matter.

What I believe the holy life is all about is the promotion of self interest to the level where God heals the defense mechanism, to get a little Freudian, that we have developed, and are for the most part unaware of, against our own distorted perception of our self worth. Genuine love only flows effectively from the life of one that has come to accept love at the point of their self distortion. When we come to that place we are free indeed to love with perfect love. I think holiness is as much a psychological transformation as it is a spiritual one - It is certainly both whatever the weighting.

[Ryan Plott]

It was the words of AM Hills, that I have quoted before, that started me on a lifelong journey. He said the most selfish thing we can do is surrender to the love of God - or something like that. From that point my understanding of "self" shifted. Into that construct came the issues of worth and self worth and then the alignment of love and worth. Ultimately I hope to do a PHD thesis somewhere around this very issue. I think it is our misunderstand of "self" versus dysfunctional selfishness and how we address that struggle that has made us ineffective in communicating grace and holiness in the 21st century, and the 20th for that matter.

What I believe the holy life is all about is the promotion of self interest to the level where God heals the defense mechanism, to get a little Freudian, that we have developed, and are for the most part unaware of, against our own distorted perception of our self worth. Genuine love only flows effectively from the life of one that has come to accept love at the point of their self distortion. When we come to that place we are free indeed to love with perfect love. I think holiness is as much a psychological transformation as it is a spiritual one - It is certainly both whatever the weighting.

The defense mechanism in regards to what personality trait? I'm assuming the preservation of the self but I just want to be clear. And would this be at the id or the super-ego level?

[Roland Hearn]

The defense mechanism in regards to what personality trait? I'm assuming the preservation of the self but I just want to be clear. And would this be at the id or the super-ego level?

Sorry Hank it was a long sentence. If I take out the parentheses it may read a little easier. "....God heals the defense mechanism[s] against our own distorted perception of our self worth."

[Ryan Plott]

Sorry Hank it was a long sentence. If I take out the parentheses it may read a little easier. "....God heals the defense mechanism[s] against our own distorted perception of our self worth."

Thanks. If you ever get around to writing this as a dissertation I'd be interested in reading it. I don't particularly care much for Freud, but the different perspective would be challenging and informative.

[Roland Hearn]

Thanks. If you ever get around to writing this as a dissertation I'd be interested in reading it. I don't particularly care much for Freud, but the different perspective would be challenging and informative.

While psychoanalysis has, in my opinion - due respect to those who disagree, very little going for it apart from a complex system of absurdity and thus Freud has, again IMHO, not much to care for he did influence the language and "defense mechanisms" is one of his things - hence the reference. I doubt I would draw on Freud for much else. My referencing him was essentially a throw away line for a little levity. The main point being that our own sense of worthlessness causes us to develop "defense mechanisms" that are almost too innumerable to count and of which we are often unaware. It is allowing the Holy Spirit to transform us in that area, softening us, making us more aware of ourselves, helping us understand graciousness, to mention but a few, that is the genuine mark of holiness. A claim that I once had an encounter with the Holy Spirit that sanctified me and then the ongoing ignorance to our own self protection is one of the things that has not served us well as a movement. I see it in countless people and often in leadership at all levels of the church where the background motivation for what is often done is fear based rather than love based. Genuine self interest is the discovery of who God intended us to be and that can only be known in a "walls down" posture. And that is always a painful process, which is why we avoid it.

[David Graham]

While psychoanalysis has, in my opinion - due respect to those who disagree, very little going for it apart from a complex system of absurdity and thus Freud has, again IMHO, not much to care for he did influence the language and "defense mechanisms" is one of his things - hence the reference. I doubt I would draw on Freud for much else.

I know that this is off the point, but I see Freud's teaching as providing one level of defence against the excesses of individualised religion, and particularly of those who claim authority from dreams and visions. He gives us an objective point by which we can question their veracity.

[Ryan Plott]

I know that this is off the point, but I see Freud's teaching as providing one level of defence against the excesses of individualised religion, and particularly of those who claim authority from dreams and visions. He gives us an objective point by which we can question their veracity.

Could you expand a bit more on this David? I was of the understanding that Freud's teaching dismisses religion altogether.

[David Graham]

Could you expand a bit more on this David? I was of the understanding that Freud's teaching dismisses religion altogether.

Yes, you're right about Freud's views on religion, but I was thinking in terms of his views about the interpretations of dreams, as being reflective of the person's inner desires, and with regard to religious experience in general by seeing it in terms of a person's insecurities and their immature ability to face reality. This creates some sort of imaginary figure or wish fulfilment dream that creates that level of security for which they crave.

He certainly never set out to offer religion any support at all, but in his attack against the individual's religious experience he exposed what has become a possible reasonable explanation as to what lay behind that experience.

Now we as Christians don't need to go as far as he did, but we can use his deductions to provides us with a level of objective evaluation by which we can scrutinise a person's subjective religious experience in order to determine its legitimacy or the person's spiritual/emotional authenticity. This is particularly useful when that experience goes beyond that which is commonly experienced by ordinary Christians (or other religious devotees). Furthermore, it may be vital source of evaluation when the person (who has had the experience) is claiming some sort of authority as a result of the experience, or for the "message" received through the experience.

[Bob Carabbio]

"Self Interest", is essentially why EVERY HUMAN does anything. It's why we cried out to the Lord for Salvation when we recognized our need. And it is, in the final analysis why we're "obedient" to the Lord (if we are), and generally "Law abiding" citizens of our countries.

We may try to "Dress things up in religious overtones", and talk about "Loving the Lord" - but in the final anaysis, EVERYTHING we do is basically motivated by "Self interest" - i.e. it'll be GOOD FOR ME in the final analysis.

[Stu Weber]

I find that taking care of my needs and wants is good as long as I am not doing it in disobedience to God or I am not doing it at the expense of others. To clarify on the second point: I could take care of myself at the expense of others when 1) I am willfully forsaking loving others (by not helping them, praying for them, etc), 2) I am taking care of my needs and wants because I want to better myself in comparison to others.... both of these situations stimulate my selfish ambitions, self-preservation, etc (or like James puts it in chapter 4 - where do war and jealousy comes from?)

So.... I think we (Christians) ought to pursue what we desire, take care of ourselves (wants and needs), and not worry about it....having the mind of Christ, looking for the interest of others and not just my own, and doing everything cheerfully in response to the love of God.

[Billy Cox]

I find that taking care of my needs and wants is good as long as I am not doing it in disobedience to God or I am not doing it at the expense of others. To clarify on the second point: I could take care of myself at the expense of others when 1) I am willfully forsaking loving others (by not helping them, praying for them, etc), 2) I am taking care of my needs and wants because I want to better myself in comparison to others.... both of these situations stimulate my selfish ambitions, self-preservation, etc (or like James puts it in chapter 4 - where do war and jealousy comes from?)

So.... I think we (Christians) ought to pursue what we desire, take care of ourselves (wants and needs), and not worry about it....having the mind of Christ, looking for the interest of others and not just my own, and doing everything cheerfully in response to the love of God.

Yes, if we're serious about our doctrine of regeneration, why would our self-interest not also be redeemed?

[Carl Hueston]

"If any man follow me, he must first deny himself." Just a thought.

[Hans Deventer]

"If any man follow me, he must first deny himself." Just a thought.

Yeah. But it's hard to rid oneself of all the modern constructs of truth, that turned truth itself into an idol, to be manipulated and abused at will in order to advance one's own agenda., under the pious disguise of obedience.

[Carl Hueston]

Not sure of what you are saying Hans. Could you elaborate?

[Hans Deventer]

Not sure of what you are saying Hans. Could you elaborate?

Well, in order to deny yourself, you have to face the death of all that you've created in terms of self understanding and the concepts of truth you've been building on. The Lord of course continues the quote and says we have to take up our cross. Which in those days was not a pretty metaphor, but a harsh reality. The Kingdom requires us to give up everything, because it puts everything upside down. And that includes our constructs of truth to the extent that they do not lead us to Calvary and the very point where our Master cries "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" We're usually not so keen on that message.

Most often, truth is either used as a psychological crutch, or a means to determine who is in and who is out.

[Carl Hueston]

Ok thanks. It is difficult, but I've found that the truth (bible truth) has set me free in many areas. God bless.

[Hans Deventer]

Ok thanks. It is difficult, but I've found that the truth (bible truth) has set me free in many areas. God bless.

I've found the One to whom the Bible points to do that. For the truth that sets us free is Jesus. For the Bible doesn't love me, didn't die for me, wasn't resurrected, doesn't reign and won't return and won't create a new heaven and a new earth. Like John the Baptist, it points to the One whom it is all about.

[Dale Cozby]

I am of the belief that whatever is best for the Kingdom of God is also best for me and you and others. Therefore, in an effort to help others I will help myself. When others help me they also help themselves. Christ came and for the joy set before him endured the cross. Even what Jesus did on the cross was in his self interest, because he reconciled the world to himself. Kind of funny how this all works huh? If we love others as ourselves, we actually love ourselves properly.