I have pondered this problem for several years and it seems worthy of a NazNet discussion. If this is inappropriate I am fully open to having a host administrater remove the thread.
Over the years I have had two former pastors confide in me that their reason for leaving their spouses and "falling" into a relationship outside of their marriages was due to the discontinuance of sexual relations and affection quite early in their marriages. Both men were good men and had years of successful ministry before making the transition. Both men begged their spouses to no avail to seek counseling.
My insights into these relationships cause me to ask, "Have we, as a denomination, closed our eyes to the problems of such marriages?" Both of the men to whom I refer were very soon a distant speck in the denomination's rearview mirror.
It "seems" to me that such situations should have special handling. What do you think?